I was reading a blog on Myspace when I came across this interesting quote:
“If a man is not your boyfriend or husband before he sleeps with you he looses respect for you.”
Do you consider yourself in a serious relationship (i.e. someone's boy or girlfriend) before sex?
A what point do we become "SLUTS?" Is there a number of men we have to sleep with to become sluts? For instance, is it once we have slept with 9, 18, or 27 men? Is it not necessarily the number but how you conduct you sexual encounters? In my opinion many women including myself have had their share of great, average and failed fucks. I have learned many lessons through the men I have slept with and I don't think I would be who I am today or tomorrow if I were to erase my good or bad sexual experiences. Is it someone who always ends up dissapointed after sleeping with men hoping it may be more time and time again? Or is it someone who is finding themselves through various sexcapades? If either of these are the case, are we all sluts or is it quite possible that we are all saints trying to find our way through sexual experiences?
On a phone conversation with the married guy (mentioned in previous blog).......... Ok! I know I am not "supposed" to be talking to him.......... To continue, here’s what I said:
“At this point in my life I don’t think I am looking for anything serious. A casual, drama free relationship that consisted of great sex, gifts and trips would be fabulous. Could it be that simple?”
After inadvertently raising a question that left me lost for words, I paused and asked myself:
Is it possible that two people carry on a continuous relationship predominately based on great sex and not develop any feelings for each other? Or is great sex a combination of feelings in and out of the bedroom?
A Lesbian is defined as a woman whose sexual orientation is to women. Meaning they solely find women attractive whom they date and have sex with. With that said, this is what baffles me about Lesbianism:
First, Why do some dress like men?
Second, what is the purpose of the strap on dick?
It was in my belief that women were lesbians because the thought of any sexual relations with a man with a man gave them the gag reflex. So why do I see a feminine woman holding hands with a woman with a buzz cut and sagging jeans? Why dress like a man when you say you don’t want to be with one?And if I am not mistaken men have penises, so why are you stimulating a male female sexual experience when you don’t want to be with a man? Is it that subconsciously lesbians that find themselves attracted to dude look-a-likes want to be with a man and the ones who mock men really just want to be one?
As I sat in that cold room waiting for my doctor to come in and read my HIV screening results, I thought: "What if it came back positive?" Would I ever be able to have sex again? Children? How would I tell my partner? How would I tell my friends and family? Life as I know it would be over. Many of us women including myself have had a sexual relationship with a man whom we know not to be faithful, yet we allow ourselves to let them put our lives at stake for a few moments of lust.
"Baby I ain't got nothing."
So many men get wrapped up in the lure of a woman's physique when the lights go off that turning over to the night stand or making that extra stop to the gas station becomes to much to bear.
"Damn it's so wet."
So as I sit in the waiting room regretting unprotected sex with a man whom I wasted 2 years of my life with.............
Knock. Knock.
"Hello Bertha. How are you?"
"Fine." I said with a nervous grin.
"I have your HIV results here." She said as she opened the folder.
"OOOOK............"
My heart began to race.
"You results came back..............Negative."
My wake up call happened at that moment. No longer did I care what the clerk thought if I brought a pack of Magnums. No longer would I be having unprotected sex in a knowingly unfaithful uncommitted relationship. A year later I still ask myself: "What if?"
Do you ever ask yourself: What if?
"NUTS. " Most women find them disgusting. Are they better off left alone? Men haven't really came out and said they are relevant during sex. Is there any sensation down there? Do men get aroused when they are touched? Do men find it irrelevant to have them toyed with during sexual acts or is it a man's desire for them to be involved in the nibbling, licking and caressing?
He is attractive, he treats you good, runs your bath water and even helps you take care of your bad toddler from a previous relationship. He even helps pay the bills. What more can you want? But like the old saying goes: “Too good to be true.” One day you are snooping through your man’s emails and you discover a email recalling sexual events with him and another man a few nights prior when he told you he had to stay late at work. With further investigation you come to find out that you man is indeed having a sexual relationship with a man. Does it matter whether they cheat with the same sex or not? What would you do?
This past year I've had a fantasy…………….I always wondered how it would be to have sex with a guy who is much taller than I. I was told by an ex-friend girl of mine that while having an affair with a basketball player in some positions sex was awkward. Well I met this guy who was 6'10 at Club Bed on South Beach a few Wednesdays ago. To cut to the chase-the day after we met we decided to hang out at the Hard Rock Hotel and Casino in Hollywood where I brutally witnessed him loose $800.00 in a matter of an hour in BlackJack. We had a few Grey Goose and Sprite cocktails. We were a bit tipsy. He seemed to have an Ok personality although he did like to lecture. However, I didn't care too much about his personality. I was only with him to fulfill my fantasy. We went back to my place where we quickly cut to the chase. His tongue made me lose it in less than three minutes. He was well endowed-but it was average nothing memorable for me. I don't know why I had in my mind that a man 6'10 was going to be any more exiting than a guy who was 5'10. There goes a perfectly good fantasy.
“Leave Him!” is the first reaction most people have when a woman claims to be in a physically abusive relationship. Most women involved in this kind of relationship do not leave after the first blow. It is most commonly assumed that most stay because of low self esteem, but there must be other contributing factors that allow a woman to justify staying in a physically abusive relationship. In our society, men are allowed to cheat, not take care of their children, and belittle women among other things and still be welcomed with open arms by their women. Therefore, how can a woman be told to leave her physically abusive boyfriend when her peer is allowing herself to be cheated on by her boyfriend. Does one outweigh the other? With that being said, why are other forms of abuse and misconduct by men more acceptable than physical abuse in our society?
While Walking through the isles of Publix Grocery Store in Miramar, FL, I met a dark skinned African American man. He had gold teeth on the top of his mouth that looked as if they needed shining and he was well overweight. His stomach hung well over his belt so low it was midway down his thighs. I don’t quite remember the first words he said to me but I remember him making me laugh. We continued our conversation as I pushed my buggy down the can good isle. He relayed to me that he recently broke up with his girlfriend of two years a few weeks ago and that he was single. I just smiled and nodded. “So.......Can I call you sometime?” He asked as we came to the end of the isle.Despite my lack of physical attraction towards him he did indeed make me laugh so I decided to give him my number. He called me shortly after I left the store but I did not pick up. The following evening he called. I hesitated to pick up but after a few rings I told myself: “Why Not?” In our 30 minute conversation he revealed many of the qualities that I look for in a man (including “wooing” me). I also realized that we had many things in common such as upscale restaurants and playing poker. “When are you going to let me take you out?” I suddenly cringed at the thought of being snuggled up against his gut in a restaurant booth eating appetizers. Apart of me grew angry because for once I had met someone whom I had so much in common with yet he was grossly unattractive to my tastes. I told him I had another call and I would call him back. Is it possible that someone you are not attracted to can grow on you or are looks just as important as personality?
