Is the greatness of sex based on having an orgasm? I have had phenomenal sex without an orgasm and dismal sex with an orgasm. If mind blowing sex can be accomplished without and orgasm there must be other factors that make sex worth desiring. If the main purpose of having sex is nothing other than having that grand euphoric eruption then why not just masturbate? What is the difference between an orgasm self induced versus partner induced? Does the very thought of you and the one you are attracted to intertwined intensify the orgasm?
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GOOD Question! I think it's a shame how this society views sex....SERIOUSLY!...Folks need to let go of all the 'religious undertones' and figure out PERSONALLY what u like...cause if you don't know yourself how u gonna let your partner know???????? Masturbation is essential in figurin out your own sexual 'kinks', in my opinion anyways. AND one more thing. LOL Masturbating WITH the one who you're attracted to is the BEST!
Haha, i had to laugh at Priest's Ritual comment but it was all a good point. I do have to know yourself but someone else's touch might be the only we to get that feelings your want. Everything to goes along with sex should what it's about. It's good when your mentally and physically into it. The orgasm is like a prize for doing good. Masturbating, I guess would be good if you only wanted to have an orgasm. So NO, the greatness of sex if not based on an orgasm.
I think that masturbation is a great way for a woman to find out how you want to be pleased. However, sometimes we have sex to just be having sex. For instance, to fulfill a void. So sex must be more than the chase of an orgasm because another person can also fill a void. But if we are just looking to erupt then why do you even need the other partner?
I think there is a small guilty associated with masturbating. for a man who does it once a month, I think that is more than enough. If one abuse it and is the #1 source of cumming, then there should be some kind of guilt associated with it. I know the difference between getting some from a female and jerking off. There is nothing compare to that warm lip wrapped around my private part. Then, there comes that hot wet wet juicy oval shape dripping on my leg. Listen people, masturbating is OK, but lets keep it 100 and admit the real thing is much much better.
yes, but it always seems to cost ya something
my husband had a stroke almost 3yrs ago..that's how long its been for me or him ...I bought this Osculator thingy...works great...better than hitting the bars looking for one night stands..lol
I have to agree with Sly in that the aesthetic of sex is very much associated with a the opposite (or same) sex. It's even prevalent in out fantasies when alone pleasing ourselves.
For Cheryl: If you love your husband a one night stand will have you waking up in the morning felling disgusting so it's much better to just stay at home trust me been there done that..............
i much prefer sex to alone sex with a loving partner that is
masturbating can become an issue if it's abused...so masturbate wisely and moderately.
To be honest i was an abuser and sometimes preffered to masturbate rather than have sex...yes I was lazy and it was more convienient.
so use with caution
(btw check spelling)
I'd like to hear more about this mind blowing sex without an orgasm theory. It's kind of like having ice cream and no spoon for me. Looks good tastes good, but how the hell are you supposed to eat it? Masturbation is like a sneeze. You feel a sense of release. An orgasm with a partner is like snorting cocaine..what a rush!
Orgasms are wonderful, but I get my kicks when my partner has orgasms, especially mulitiples. I don't really care if I have an orgasm or not, I really prefer to please my partner. To me, sex is supposed to be pleasing each other, but I have an old-fashioned opinion here I'm sure :)
Probably because I find women to be considerably more attractive than my hand ;)
GREAT SEX IS ABOUT REMEMBERING IT THE NEXT DAY AND I MEAN DRIVING DOWN THE STREET ON YOUR WAY TO THE STORE AND IT JUST COMES ACROSS YOUR MIND. THAT IS GREAT SEX TO ME IF I DONT REALLY REMEMBER ANYTHING SIGNIFICANT THEN IT WAS AVERAGE. EVEN THOUGH I CAME......
There are times when the foreplay is so much better than the act. I see nothing wrong with pleasing yourself and finding out what feels best. As long as it's not the only time you have sex...the human touch and all the other things are needed at least by me!
I agree with Priest Ritual on the part about our society. People need to wake up period as far as letting our society control how we live, but thats another subject, he he. I think that mastuerbation is basicaly just a form of relief, but can also be a form of sex with your significant other. For me personaly I look at it like this.
My Orgasm with my partner begins with the mental connection you have for each other when interacting with one another. the better you are mentaly connected, the more comfortable you feel getting physical. The more physical you get the more powerful the Orgasm. So Mastuerbation will do...... he he. But NO substitute for the Power of a wet drippy ummm you get the picture right.
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